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Shelah Horvitz's avatar

Right. I'm always relieved (and devastated) when someone I thought was a friend says something unequivocally antisemitic because the ambiguity is gone, now I know who I'm dealing with, now I know how they felt about me every time they expressed love or support. I recognize people can be of two minds, people can be torn, that one can believe or feel two contradictory things simultaneously, that they might have sincerely loved at the same time that they sincerely loathed. But I also know that when push comes to shove, they will require that I renounce who I am for the relationship to continue, and I know this because it's happened more than once. My father always said the polite antisemites are the worst, and he was right, because you've wasted time, energy, and emotions on them, because you trusted them, because they pretended even to themselves that they are not who they are.

And if you call them on it, they always blame it on you. And then you just have to thank them for the confirmation.

This is not just the antisemitism of non-Jews. Many if not most Jews have also absorbed the antisemitism that is foundational to our society and they will require you to renounce or hide your Jewishness more than anyone, for fear that you might make things tough for them. At the very least, they will tell you that they never see antisemitism, never encounter it, that it's all in your head, and by the way, Israel is an evil, evil country and antizionism and antisemitism have nothing to do with each other. They are the opposite of allies.

The long-term effect of this is caustic because you start to assume that everyone secretly hates you, and that it's only a matter of time before they show you.

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Suzy's avatar

Absolutely right. But beyond even that, the next level of bias against Jews is the anti-Israel bias. Many (maybe even you) have already noted the way anti-Israel sentiment is the newest expression of antisemitism, in effect “justice-washing” Jew-hate in the cloak of human rights, turning Israel into “the Jew among nations”. Not only is this an easy hop, skip and a jump from the inherited secular-Christian bias, but it’s been actively cultivated by Middle East Nazism (itself exported by the Nazis in the ‘30’s and ‘40’s!) and swallowed whole by media and academia. I believe even my progressive, human-rights-loving friends, who have known and loved me for decades, believe the inversions, ahistoricism and invented narrative they read because they come from “trusted” sources. I fear I’m seen as “the good Jew.” That is what is most dangerous now, and most heartbreaking. Personally, I’m reading and learning and working up the knowledge and courage to begin confronting and teaching them the truth. Please keep the insight and information coming - we have a lot of work to do!

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